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Travel Vietnam: Vietnam marriage
Pre-Marriage Relationships
In ancient times, chastity was emphasized strongly with young people be carefully monitored. As with Confucianism, physical love was not highly regarded. The parents frowned at courtship and falling in love and thought badly of his defenders.
Marriage was seen as a duty, and was organized in general, non-emotional way of the elders in the family. Sometimes children just are committed to each other for marriage later.
Previously, couples easily subject to parental choice of his fellow and still largely do in the field. In the cities, have begun to "fight for their rights." Young people have more opportunities to meet these days, so often the role of parents has been reduced to mere advice and consultancy.
The choice of spouses
Certain rules must be kept the choice of materials under the traditional system. For example, social status, education, moral history, etc should be similar in substance and as a level equal as possible.
horoscope of the couple must be in conflict and disagree. Horoscope of data has been deliberately misinterpreted at times to be able tactfully refuse an offer of marriage. Generally, a mediator works with families, and if successful, will be rewarded with a gift, like a head pig.
Age at marriage
Previously, girls are often married as early as 13 and boys at age 16. Encouraged economic reasons often young couples. For example, a family may have wanted to marry her daughter to have one less mouth to feed. On the side of the boy, a woman would other hand on the field, plus the ability to have more children to work the land.
Daughter-in-laws were considered "national free helpline, and many girls were older than his bride-grooms. At times, marriages were performed for couples too young to make alliances between families.
In Vietnam today These days, marriage age varies from 18 to 22 for women and 22 to 25 for men. These figures rise to levels in older cities where Western influence is felt. Child marriages are not common in Vietnam today.
Rituals
Although many things have changed, the rituals have remained more or less the same in traditional marriages. A description of each one of the most important rituals below.
The presentation of gifts
This is often called "crossing housegate of the girl." It is a time when the child's family brings gifts to the girl's family to include a lot of leaves Betel and areca nuts. Tea, cakes and sweets may also be included. The day and time must be exactly right about the timetable of the horoscope.
The procedure is usually quite formal with everyone dressed in their finest clothes. Led by a distinguished senior member of the boy's family, the family enters the house of the girl. Children dressed in black with red sashes around their waists to carry the gifts in the round red trays balanced on their heads. The groom and the intermediary or matchmaker also present. The matchmaker will discuss the gifts that the groom later be presented to the bride's family. The date of the formal proposal of marriage had been set at this time.
The wedding gifts that the request of the bride's family will be given to relatives and friends of the family of the girl. Gifts are often tea sets, sweet areca nuts, betel leaves, etc. These additional gifts are brought to the house on this day. If the parents of the girl has a wide circle of friends, then a large number of gifts required.
Besides these, the groom's family must provide the bride with a dowry of jewels like the engagement ring, earrings, necklaces, bracelets, and maybe even a certain amount of money.
Formal proposal of marriage
The horoscope should be consulted for the moment and time, and once again the entourage of family and friends descend on the bride's house in most parts of the same in the "ceremony of the presentation of gifts." In the home of the bride-to-be, are received with courtesy tea nuts, areca nuts, betel leaves, and maybe the liquor is served. The gifts brought by the groom-to-be will be placed in the ancestral altar. Sticks of incense and the lights are lit and the incense is burned. The girl's father, the bride and groom ceremonially bow before the altar. After this, the bride can be removed to another room and her future husband can take care of the entertainment of the guests, as a member of the family of the bride.
After a long talk time, the head of the family of the girl off the gifts of the altar, thank you all, and edible gifts divided into two parts, a smaller one than the other. The smallest part is returned to the groom's family indicating that they have been too generous and that the bride's family is not greedy. This also indicates good luck and a close alliance between the two families. Later, other edible gifts are distributed to friends of the bride's family.
In the past, waiting time from this date until the actual marriage was sometimes two or three years. At the same time, the groom-to-be was supposed to keep your relationship with family his girlfriend with generous gifts of many special days. Today, this waiting period has been drastically reduced. The man was not allowed to see the little girl often and were then monitored closely. If by chance they meet in public, the bride discreetly cover her face with his hat. Instead from being discouraged, this meant that the prospective groom proud, as he told everyone that his wife was chaste. This ancient custom has changed considerably in the Vietnam of today. There are, however, the rural areas that still maintain such practices.
The Wedding Celebration
Horoscopes are especially important for the wedding and many checks are made, because no one wants to start a marriage on the wrong foot. Usually, the day before the wedding, the boy's family has a feast. Among the poor, can be a tea party or not at all.
On the wedding day, the groom's family goes with her boyfriend at a time chosen especially to the home of the bride. We all walk together in a procession that usually led by an old man in dark clothes carrying an incense burner. The groom's parents and older relatives are the elderly. Next Online is the groom wearing new clothes and surrounded by his numerous assistants. They are followed by brothers and sisters and close friends. Women carry betel leaves and areca nuts and offer them to the wedding party on the road.
The procession on foot is common in rural areas, especially among the poorest people. It is a status symbol to have another means of transport in the procession and a lot of money is often used by those who wish to make a good impression on others. It is not uncommon in big cities to see the processions as consisting of luxury cars adorned with garlands of flowers.
When they arrive at the bride house and guests are welcome parents of the girl. Parents never get beyond the front door because they do not want to appear to initiate the movement to offer their daughter in marriage.
After tea, the head of the child's family makes a solemn formal request takes the bride to be home where a daughter in law for the family. Solemnly, the father or head of the girl's family agrees.
Then the girl's father or head of the family performs a rite in front of the altar of the family, his interest in the acceptance of marriage by his ancestors. The bride and groom as well.
A feast is often held at this point, but near the end, the groom's family traditionally acts as if they are very eager to take the bride home.
The groom's entourage then began the ride home in a procession to the bride and her friends companions and family to join in.
Young children sometimes set up roadblocks and demand tolls of the wedding party. These are easy pay, as they believe that bad luck to turn down.
On arrival at the groom's house, the party is met by the loud noise of firecrackers. Guests are guests inside with the bride and groom and a ceremony honoring the genius of marriage soon begins.
The genius of marriage is often called the pink silk thread God and is believed to be responsible for the couple to marry. A special altar is set up and lit with candles and incense and incense sticks are burned in honor of genius. A senior member groom's family bears the ceremony. He and the couple often bow before the altar, and a sheet of red paper in which a plea for help and protection is written into the genius of marriage. This is read aloud. Three vessels are filled with a clear white liquor for the old man leading the ceremony. The old bow three times and given a cup the boyfriend who drinks a bit of liquid and passes his girlfriend, who also drinks a bit. The boyfriend has a little ginger and rub with salt, eat a little of it and then shares with his girlfriend. This symbolizes that no matter what happens, love remains true. The red paper is then burned and the arc of three people, once again their final respects to the genius.
In Here, the couple is considered married and a feast is usually celebrated with a lot of speech making, gift-giving.
Just as in the West, assistant boyfriend try to keep you busy as long as he can and jokes. In ancient times, the couple spent their first night of marriage in separate rooms with their assistants.
The couple usually live with the husband's parents, at least until the children are born. It is expected that the bride is waiting on her husband's family, almost like a servant. This not the custom with the educated class and well-to-people in Vietnam. Are somewhat Westernized in their approach.
Pregnancy and birth
Except among young people Modern, one of the greatest desires of the Vietnamese is to have a large family. Children are more desirable than girls and are particularly important to continue the line family and ancestral worship. A couple that only girls are considered by to have done something wrong in their lives and, therefore, be punished.
Traditional customs dictate that the mother-to-be must follow strict rules and observe certain customs and taboos in order to have a good healthy baby. They should eat only nutritious foods, but not so nutritious that the baby would become a major before birth. The mother must perform prenatal education with your child, act and speak as if in his presence at all times, guidance and counseling him in the physical, intellectual and moral. Alcohol and cigarettes are considered undesirable the mother.
Pregnant women are often discouraged from heavy work and involvement in stressful situations. In some strata economic strata, this is not possible but even desirable.
A pregnant woman should not go to weddings and funerals, as it is believed that their presence may bad luck to the families affected. It is also considered bad luck for a pregnant woman to meet people about to embark on a journey. Mother-to-be should not step over a hammock Whether your child is not born lazy. Do not walk too much, to reach the top of things, long rides uncomfortable or frequent places of worship.
Midwives in general give birth and cut the umbilical cord cord with a piece of clay or a bamboo knife. The baby is then washed and dressed in old clothes hand down his brothers and sisters. Vietnamese people feared that evil spirits are jealous of new clothes and make the baby sick. The father may see the child only after the baby has cleaned and dressed.
Friends send food nourishing mother, and baby gold bracelets, clothing and trinkets. The hair and nails baby should never be cut during the first month of life.
Whatever possible, the mother is encouraged not to do hard work at least two or three months. Among the farmers, often new to work within a few days, due to the need.
Celebrations
After about a month, parents of newborn baby a big party to celebrate the birthday of the baby's first month. Offers are presented at this time to the "Holy Godmother" who is believed to be the protector of the new child. They also believe that the Holy Godmother teaches the child to smile and that crying means the child is being punished for stubbornness. During the ceremony, a flower Water is wet with special altar is placed on the baby and left to drain water in the baby's mouth. This is to ensure that the child learns to speak in sweet scented words.
After the prayers and ceremonies, guests have a happy party where they eat the offerings of food from the ceremony. At this point, considered correct to put new clothes on the baby, but attention is still observed in not mentioning the good health of the child is not evil spirits and jealous do wrong.
The baby has another celebration after a lunar year. It's called "out of the crib." This is a much larger party with numerous guests. The baby is placed on a bed in a sitting position. Several things spread around including scissors, flowers, books, pencils, etc. in order that the baby first taken to determine its future vocation. If he takes the scissors, which can become a tailor, the book, a learned man, etc.
A baby is considered a year old at birth and becomes two when the next lunar new year. It is possible, therefore, for a child to become two when he is only a day old, if born on New Year's Eve.
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